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Build a longer table, not a taller wall.

hey fam! ❤

I’m sure if you have a Facebook, or Twitter you have heard people share something to the effect of, “If you have a great fortune, build a longer table, not a taller wall”.

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i know how hard it can be to be so afraid that you just want to put up barriers and protect yourself. even if that means building an unrealistic wall on the border…. i get it. you want to make your future known, you want to know that your family and you will be safe from terrorist attacks. you want to know who is coming into this country. you don’t want to pay high taxes. i get it. really. i do.

 

but when we allow fear to take hold of us, we allow it to dictate our thoughts, actions and beliefs. we give fear power to come into our lives like an oppressive dictator kicking down doors.

when we make way to fear, we stop being inviting. we stop loving. we stop being real.

i don’t claim to know everything, because i don’t. but what i do know is that no matter how hard we try, we can never prevent attacks of violence. violence comes from fear which then turns into anger which then turns to hate when then turns to violence. no matter how hard we try, there will always be something we need to protect ourselves from.

honestly……..we might be better living in a bubble! am i, right?
that’s a unrealistic reality though…….living in a bubble or hiding ourselves away from humanity.

What if we became more inviting? What if we made our table longer?
That refugee family that just moved in down the street? What if we invite them over for Easter, or Fourth of July, or Christmas?
That mailman/mail lady who just lost his/her spouse, what if we talk to them or make them a batch of cookies?
That friend or relative that you don’t agree with politically, what if we stopped arguing with them, and started listening?
That relative or friend who just came out as gay, bi, queer, or transgender? How about we be loving and supportive? How about we invite them over and hang out with them?
That African-American friend of ours who says, “Black Lives Matters” and talk about how they feel oppressed? Let’s not disregard their hurt, or their feelings.

Let’s listen. friends, let’s not allow our fears or disagreements keep us from extending our tables.
longer tables, not taller walls.

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It’s okay.

There a days when we can’t find the right words to say.
There are days when we run a little late.
There are days when we forget to put on makeup.
There are days when we forget to do our homework.
There are days when we feel like our world is falling apart.
but thats okay!

its okay for us to not have all the answers
its okay to not always have our makeup on
its okay to not be perfect

It’s okay. Take a deep breathe and relax.

The next time you are running late text your sister, mom, friend that you will be running late.
The next time you don’t have all the answers, it’s okay to look someone in the eye and admit that.
The next time you forget to put on makeup, don’t sweat it! You look gorgeous.
The next time you take a photo on your phone and you don’t look as “skinny” or “beautiful” as you think, don’t delete it. Love yourself.
The next time you forget to do your homework, or turn it in. Admit it, do the homework, but don’t beat yourself up over it.

Take a deep breathe. It’s all okay.

It’s okay to admit we aren’t perfect. So let’s all start with that. We aren’t perfect. We mess up.

It’s okay.